Relationship Resolution Centre - Ten Step Program for Couples to Improve their Relationship/Marriage.

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Couples Tune-Up Program

Tips to Become a Better Partner

1. Understand that your partner, your children (and everyone else in the world) needs to be appreciated. Especially for the little jobs. We come to 'expect' that the normal routines get done but someone has to do them. Acknowledge the effort that it takes.

Learn to say "Thank You" more to each other. Thank your partner for passing the salt, removing your plate, making you a cup of coffee, helping with the cleanup, hanging a picture, doing the laundry, taking out the garbage. Not just for one day, but every day.

2. Offer help without having to be asked. Don't always have to be reminded or reinstructed how to do household chores.

Understand that household chores happen EVERY DAY! Just because you do it once does not mean that you are off the hook for the rest of the month or year. You have an active role in making the mess, and clutter, so do your part.

3. Tell your partner the reasons why you were attracted to them and remind 'him/her' of their good qualities. Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves. If you want to see more of the positive behaviours then praise the positive behaviours.

4. Build your relationship on honesty and trust. Tell the truth and you never have to remember the lie.

5. Learn to be affectionate. Hug more. Kiss more. Sit together while watching TV. Hold hands. Be more sensual.

6. Acknowledge each other's need to be their own person, to stand on their own feet and make their own decisions.

7. Create a loving home that is a safe place that you and your partner (and children) can both express problems, doubts, fears and weaknesses without fear of rejection or punishment.

8. Learn to listen. Listening is the best part of communication. Listen to your partner's needs and wants and expectations. Listening does not mean having to fix the problem but the ability to understand that there is a problem.

9. Learn to communicate and to share what is in your heart and mind. Your partner can't solve help a problem if they do not know that the problem exists.

10. Understand and appreciate that you will not get your way all of the time. If it is not a big deal breaker, let it ride. Negotiate around your differences with respect and generosity.

11. Be honest with yourself about your personal issues that you bring into the relationship and the unrealistic expectations you may place on your partner.

12. Take time to be alone and allow your partner some space. Without the capacity to be separate and autonomous you will lack the capacity to grow and to become interesting to your partner.

Use your time for self-growth. Cultivate a hobby, take a class or learn a new skill. Any of these will give you a whole new repertoire with which to talk to your partner.

13. Maintain and build a supportive network of friends outside of the relationship. It is not possible for one relationship to meet all your needs or interests. However, do not think that it is healthy to be constantly away from your spouse. If you are always away from your spouse, you should be asking yourself 'Why'?

14. Laugh with your partner and share private jokes. Relive your funny moments over and over again. Try not to take yourself too seriously.

Have you been through the traditional marriage counselling? Did it help? Or did you just learn more things that your spouse doesn't like about YOU?

The Couples Tune-Up program is POSITIVE, POSITIVE, POSITIVE! It helps you understand and improve your communication styles. You will learn about the Anatomy of an Argument, Roles People Play in Conversations, Healthy Conflict vs Stressful Drama, and the difference between an Issue and your Interests behind the issue.

Not only will you understand what aspects of your marriage need help but HOW to improve them!

All relationships have their ups and downs. Having a shaky moment does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. There are definite stages that couples go through that can either make or break their relationship. Solid relationships prepare you to meet the changes and challenges of life, such as:

Acquiring or changing jobs
Taking on financial responsibilities and burdens
Becoming a parent
Raising children
Raising teenagers
Dealing with In-Laws
Dealing with holidays
Spending time apart
Becoming empty-nesters
Facing life's joys and disappointments
Coping with loss and grief

Don't delay. Seek help early to keep your relationship intact and make it even stronger.

What is the COUPLES TUNE-UP PROGRAM?

The Relationship Resolution Centre, Inc. provides a half-day session for Couples. This ten-step program helps couples realize the 10 important elements of a positive relationship. This session is a humorous but yet very educational.

This session provides an overview of the elements and does not make each couple expose the weaknesses of their own relationship. The fact that it is a coaching session makes it a great starting point for reluctant couples.

Do you have a reluctant spouse? Coming without your spouse will also prove useful. Bring another friend that would like to improve their marriage. The knowledge that YOU acquire will help YOU achieve what you want from your spouse.

From each session you will take away the skills to:

Determine what type of relationship that you have with your partner.
Determine if you are in a healthy relationship
Discover your communication style.
Improve your communication style and skills.
Understand the difference between Interests and Issues.
Understand why you fight.
Learn how to stop the fighting.
Learn to communicate with everyone more positively.

COUPLES TUNE-UP PROGRAM

The Couples Tune-Up is a two-hour program that is humorous way to look at different communication styles between men and women, relationship styles, relationship roles and ways to improve your friendship and intimacy.

This course offers 10 sure-fire ways to improve your relationship. Even if you only consciously adopt 4 to 6 of these suggestions, your relationship will improve.

This session is available during the day or evening.

Cost for each two-hour session is $190.00 + hst. (A much cheaper price than the cost of a divorce!)

Please call ahead to make an appointment.

Presentations

A COUPLES TUNE-UP - 10 Ways to Improve ALL the Relationships in Your Life
Presenter: Janet McCredie
Location: The 10th Annual National Women's Show - Lansdowne Park, Ottawa, Canada
Date: September 27, 2009 at 10:30 a.m.

Internet Interview TV Show: BOUNCING BACK FROM A BAD RELATIONSHIP on RealCoachingRadio.net
Interview Host: Donna Marie Thompson of Bouncing Back Now
Interview Guest: Janet McCredie
Date: March 30, 2011 between 9:00 p.m. and 10:00 p.m.