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Are you getting into the same bad relationships over and over again?

Are you over the age of 40 and are single again and don't know where to start?

**Are you in a relationship but it is not making you happy?

First Date Tips for Singles!

DO

1. Listen, listen, listen:

Do make sure that you are listening as well as speaking. Ask your date questions and pay attention to the answers. Wait for your date to ask you something before launching into your own stories. Do not take the first question as the opportunity to keep talking all night.

Do listen to your heart. Do listen to your head. If this person is not right for you or you sense something is wrong, do not make it into something it is not just for the sake of having someone.

2. Prepare:

Do prepare for your date by thinking of a list of questions that you would like to talk about, just as you would prepare for a job interview. It helps you think during those awkward silences.

3. Smile:

Do smile when you greet your date and laugh at their jokes. This will make your date feel that you are both having a great time.

4. Admit your nervousness:

Do admit that you are nervous. Chances are your date is nervous too. It also shows that you are human and can be more readily forgiven for any nervous behaviours. If you are talking too much from nervousness, admit it and ask the other person to take over the conversation.

5. Eye Contact:

Do maintain good eye contact. Looking your date in the eye will heighten the attraction. And, most importantly, do not look at other men or women around you. Give your date the respect that they deserve.

Do Move On if your date is already looking around at the other people in the bar or restaurant, they have already decided that you are not important enough for them.

6. Acknowledge the positive:

Do compliment you date on their appearance, their choice of location, their great conversation skills, etc.

Do tell your date if the date is going well. Tell the person that you are having a good time and enjoy their company. This will do two things; it tells the person that you enjoy being with them and gives them positive feedback on how they are doing on the date; and second, if you are not getting the same reaction back from your date you know that they are not as interested as you hoped.

7. Be Safe:

Do keep your date in public places until you have gotten to know him or her better.

DON’T:

1. Don’t get drunk.

Don’t drink too much. It is unattractive to both sexes! Plus you will lose perspective and start making bad judgments. If you drink alcohol, make every second drink a soft drink. It slows down the total number of alcohol drinks that you consume but you still have a drink in front of you.

2. Don’t neglect your grooming:

Don’t forget to make a good first impression. Do remember that people are attracted to cleanliness, good grooming and smell! Don’t have an overpowering smell. Do have a subtle smell that can only be detected in close proximity. This is very alluring to the opposite sex.

3. Don’t reveal too much personal information:

Don’t give out all your personal information on the first date.

Don’t go into emotional details about your last split-up. Your date will think that you are still not over your ex.

Don’t let your date go on and on about their last split-up. You are not there to be their therapist. Take this as a sign that the person is not ready to move on and be your partner just yet. Keep the conversations positive and light.

4. Don’t be late:

You don’t want to start off by annoying your date!

5. Don’t brag about yourself:

Don’t brag about all your accomplishments or possessions. You look desperate and self-focused. People will ask the question, “If you are so great, why are you still single? There has to be a reason.” Be subtle. Ask about the other persons accomplishments and be genuinely interested.

6. Don’t do all the talking:

Don’t keep talking about yourself. You will learn nothing about the other person and you will not discover if your date has any conversation skills. Excessive talking shows that you are nervous or self-absorbed.

People often come for Relationship Coaching if they have trouble meeting people, are new to the dating world after divorce or death of their spouse, don’t know where to go to meet people, are shy, hate dating, always have bad first dates, have not had many successful relationships, seem to attract to or attract the wrong partner or are simply ‘date-a-phobic’.
Relationship Coaching trains you to:

Learn about the new and ever changing rules of dating.
Review and analyze your dating history.
Discover what part of dating bothers you.
Discover why it has or has not worked in the past.
Become aware of your dating communication skills.
Understand how you present yourself to other daters.
Understand the differences between men and women as it relates to dating.
Become aware of the different dating stages.
Become aware of the different dating styles.
Understand your relationship choices. (Is it you? Is it them?)
Determine why you have made bad choices in partners.
Have a safe place to practice your communication and dating skills.
Play the dating game.
Learn how to analyze your own dating techniques.

Understand that you have a Relationship Coach that will give you a ‘pep-talk’ and will reinforce your strengths and work on your dating weaknesses in a positive way.

How many times will I need to see a Relationship Coach before I notice changes?

How many times that you see a Relationship Coach will depend on your age, dating stage and need for solid, sound dating advice.

The Relationship Resolution Centre, Inc. provides a half-day group session called “Sleep, Heap or Keep”. The dynamics of these session changes with every group because it is a humorous and very interactive session. From each session you will take away knowledge that will make you think the next time you encounter someone to whom you are attracted. Most people will take away additional dating skills to better prepare them in the dating world.

One-on-one sessions are available. People often seek out a Relationship Coach if they are in a relationship but are unhappy and don't know if they want to continue with the relationship or end it. Some people feeling pressured from a partner to get into a different Dating Stage that they are not ready for. Others need to understand why they get into unhealthy relationships over and over again.

Groups normally range from 5 to 10 people. Locations vary.
Sessions are available for a 6 hour one-day weekend session.
Costs for these sessions are $125.00 (includes hst), payable in advance.
Refer to the Events calendar for dates and times.
Please call ahead to reserve a space. Space is limited.

Presentations

"SLEEP, HEAP OR KEEP" - Workshop #13 - 2 sessions
Presenter: Janet McCredie
Location: "YOU DESERVE IT" Conference - Orleans, Ontario
Date: October 23, 2010

"LOVE AND SEDUCTION"
Presenter: Janet McCredie
Location: SINGLES GOURMET Dinner at Courtyard Restaurant, Ottawa
Date: October 6, 2010

"KNOW PEOPLE FASTER"
Presenter: Janet McCredie
Location: SINGLE GOURMET - Meet Your Match Gala
Date: October 30, 2010